At the last minute a friend called, he wanted to go out for a drive...I really wasn't in the mood but I pulled myself together and popped in his car for a leisurely Sunday drive to Palm Springs. I don't know why I didn't want to go except that my day was "planned" with chores and a "must-do" list a mile long that included going for a long walk, re-organizing my closet, giving myself a facial...how exciting I mused to myself with a chuckle. 
Sexy Over fifty avoid Isolation

Why did I think I should stay home by myself and be "productive?" I would have missed an opportunity to socialize, get to know someone better, see a beautiful sunset and just blow the stink off me as my dad would say. Just then I got a pop-up from an article that I read recently that said one of the biggest issues with women as they age is ISOLATION. I began to think about the women (friends and clients) I know who repeatedly tell me that they want to be in a relationship yet when I ask them what they did over the past week that was social often there is nothing on their list but an item or two with family members and rarely is there a social event with anyone new, which also means...no new men. So I wondered, "How can we expect to meet new people, especially men when we isolate our lives?"

The other issue with isolation and spending too much time alone is that it's been linked to depression. Research shows even the most shy of us needs to get out and be with others. Sure a good long walk, reading a gripping book or an hour of meditation can lift the spirit. But, the "high" we get from being with friends laughing, having fun, sharing an opinion, even debating an issue leaves us in such a better state of mind that we have to be more attractive and glowing. 

So I spent some time thinking about the energy you have when you meet someone you find attractive and even have an exciting date...and I determined, that energy, that alive, fun, sexy energy is not found watching the television by yourself. Promise to self...put down the remote and get out there!