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Even if you're SEXY OVER 50....Sometimes you just gotta be "bad." I'm not talking bad-bad but medium-bad meaning Final SexyOver50 stacked logo 2you've got a bag of Tostitos and potato chips on your lap at the same time as you watch TV.  So what do you do? Your goal is to be a better sexier version of you, but,  that little devil on your one shoulder seems to be winning out on this round.

Truth is this, I was in this exact situation last night. So instead of putting one or two full chips in my mouth at a time, I went to the absolute bottom of the bag and grabbed some crumbs/pieces and ate tiny pieces for a quite a while I have to admit. But instead of consuming a couple thousand calories I probably ate a couple of hundred...not so bad after all.

It's in these moments when we're "hopped up" wanting to gorge ourselves that we are not moving toward our goal… Here's the trick... if we can just be present in that moment to do something a little bit better than being bad-bad. I am a firm believer that you just gotta give in to your "bad" desires on occasion and enjoy life...have an ice cream, eat some taco chips, have a burger and fries...just not all the time. If it's a treat, have it....infrequently! If you're really really enjoying it...enjoy it without guilt...just don't go brain dead and eat yourself into oblivion. Eat small pieces, have one scoop instead of three, split the burger and fries with a friend who is on the Sexy Over Fifty journey too. I remind myself, if I have "it" every day it's nothing special and it probably doesn't move you/me towards our being sexier goal.

Going a bit deeper on "the trick on how to be present in the moment" is to notice what you're"I'm eating taco chips" and being aware, "they probably aren't the best use of my calorie intake" and also being aware, "I really want to do this" so how can I do this but not be really "bad"… And you figure out a way to have crumbs or pieces of chips so after several minutes you've only consumed a few pieces, or you set a limit..."after I have 10 chips, I'm gonna stop" or "after I have one cupcake I will stop", or, "I'm gonna have one scoop of ice cream not five"....etc.Final SexyOver50 stacked logo 2

Part of the success is knowing yourself...if you go insane over ice cream and binge (that's me) don't have it in the freezer go out for a one scoop treat. Don't let the waitress put a basket of taco chips in front of you...take a small handful and give the basket back.

For me, having a goal to be SEXY OVER see myself alive, slim, sexy, the future always helps me stay true to my vision.

Melinda Lee, Sexy Over 50

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Sexy Over Fifty insight....It became clear to me last night while having dinner with my friend "J" who is visiting from HongB-day photo Kong that there are two-men-in-one in most men. "J" has a new girlfriend who is a decade younger than him and he was attracted to her basically for her physicality; her pretty face and her great body (for her age he says.) She is not as educated but fun and playful and appeals to one very distinct side of "J." Yet at the same time he continues to see another woman who appeals to the other side of him...the intellectual, cultural, political side...she exposes him to another world in Hong Kong but she's not a sexual partner. So here's "J" a journalist at an International Paper well-educated, interested in what's happening all over the world especially because of his unique exposure to the news and yet there is that animal masculine physical side of him that wants to go hiking, wants to be active, which, includes sexually active and so he's found these two women who appeal to two distinctly different pieces of him. 

How can a Sexy Over 50 woman use this insight to learn about men...whether they are our husbands, boyfriends or potential new lover is that there really are two (or more) sides to animal side and an intellectual side and the "challenge" is to be a bit of both; a lover, as well as, an intellectually stimulating partner. So many times as we get older we think that it's enough that we're smart, loyal, kind, etc. and forget or even dismiss his desires. We say..."Why do I need to keep myself in shape? Why do I need to appeal to him? He should just love me just the way I am." But I have it reiterated to me from men over and over again that "he" wants "his" woman to be sexy. Yes, sexy can mean many different things but keeping yourself in shape is one important component to having a great fulfilling fun sexual relationship with a man...especially a new man. 

Determine which of the two sides you might want to work on...since fitness has been a part of my being for decades I have that handled but I hate to watch the news as it is very negative to me AND the intellectually stimulating side is where I believe I could grow so I am committing to watch TED Talks throughout the day as I work on my jewelry. Check out TED if you are not aware it's a fascinating site...filled with mini-talks on every subject on the planet! I also believe having new information not only keeps you interesting and therefore sexy...I believe it's been proven to keep your mind young and support anti-aging too! Double bonus for every Sexy Over 50 something!!!!


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A dear friend shared this with me...and, I wanted to share with you. Please know that when we talk about being Sexy Over Fifty, more than likely this type of unconditional love is really what we are yearning for from the men we are in relationship with....and them from us.
It was approximately 8.30 a.m. on a busy morning when an elderly gentleman in his eighties arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9.00 a.m.

I took his vital signs and had him take a seat. I knew it would take more than an hour before someone would to able to attend to him. I saw him check his watch anxi...ously for the time and decided to evaluate his wound since I was not busy with another patient.

On examination, the wound was well healed. Hence, I talked to one of the doctors to get the supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

We began to engage in a conversation while I was taking care of his wound. I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment later as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no and said that he needed to go to the nursing home to have breakfast with his wife.

I inquired about her health. He told me that she had been in the nursing home for a while as she was a victim of Alzheimer's disease. I probed further and asked if she would be upset if he was slightly late. He replied that sheImage no longer knew who he was and she had not been able to recognize him since five years ago.
I asked him in surprise, "And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?"
He smiled as he patted my hand and said, "She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is."

I had to hold back my tears as he left.
I had goose bumps on my arm, and I thought, "That is the kind of love I want in my life."

True love is neither physical nor romantic. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be. 

This made me stop...and think...and pray :-)

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Being SEXY OVER 50 Is having young new vibrant energy. I'm the type of person who really enjoys taking on new projects so new challenges and new "young" energy is definitely a part of this personality of mine. Some might think of it as constantly reinventing one's self but for me it's just a way of life.

In this most recent reinvention iteration I have been delving into a past love… Not romantic love but a love that comes from my soul. This love was birthed all the way back in high school when in Art class I started to create my first piece of jewelry. I may have made string or mud rings necklaces earrings etc. when I was a wee one but this was the first time I had actually gotten a piece of Metal and a blowtorch in my hands to create a piece of wearable art. Then i just stopped making anything. Nearly 40 years passed by and the urge to connect with this creative part of my soul began to resurface. So last spring I started driving to Santa Monica to "Precious Metals" a great place to take jewelry making classes. Peter the owner and artist as well as Nancy and the rest of the staff were encouraging and loving my designs. I produced 6 to 8 uniquely different pieces and one day while I was in the elevator a person admired one of my necklaces and I admired an armful of bracelets that he was wearing and we realize we were both kindred spirits and jewelry designers. He asked me to show him the other pieces that I had designed and among them he found one that he thought had great potential.

Necklace-1In the meantime he was constantly constantly constantly encouraging me to draw to let my mind simply wonder to not limit myself as to how a piece of jewelry might be manufactured or even handmade. Instead, he said to just to see these jewelry pieces in my minds eye and draw them. This Free Flow of thought was the beginning of ML Jewelry Design. Soon you will see a new website where  the beginnings of a  diverse and unique line of jewelry is forming. All of this has happened In the last 2 to 3 months and it will be interesting to see how this continues to unfold. 

The main point here is how much better it is to be going through life excited ...feeling new, fresh, full of anticipation, joy, hope and even love of the art and each individual piece. Then I notice how that energy transforms me (and potentially you) into a different more vibrant more attractive more sexy (yes, I know sexier is proper) person.

While gold and diamond jewelry making is the aphrodisiac of choice for me I encourage you to find what motivates you. What excites, what turns you on as a human being because when your light switch is on it's that beam of light that attracts people places and things to you. You could be dating, wanting to date or married for a gazillion years...good energy is good energy!

Write me and tell me what keeps you excited about life...what is your personal "turn on!" We all learn from each other so let this be the venue where you share and help someone else become more vibrant… Who knows who you might inspire to be SEXY OVER 50!

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There I was on a nice leisurely walk through Hancock Park, headset on, working on memorizing a script for a role in a movie and up popped an adorable child's HopScotch. It made me smile and the first time I passed it by...afterall it is a childs' game hopping amongst the little blocks. I went on my way, busy in my head, working on the task, my script. By the third or fourth time I circled that block the HopScotch had gripped my attention. Did I have the guts to be playful? What if someone saw me in the middle of the day acting like a child at play?

Playful = sexy over fifty HopScotch - Version 2What a quandry...jump in and be playful or continue my walk like a grown-up? I looked over my shoulder, up and down the street, and thought what the heck? And, for the next few minutes I gleefully hopped, skipped, jumped with joy. Talk about the ultimate anti-aging work-out!

Did anyone see me? I guess I will never know. But what I do know is that by taking that first hop on the tiny square that was laid out in front of me I was taking a stand...that like Peter Pan, I refuse to grow up and act my age! 

Then I wondered how many times in my life do I stop myself from having fun? How many times am I constrained by some unwritten laws that say an adult does this and not that?

Personally I am ready to burn that book of laws...if only I could find it. But, the truth is the "book" is what is inside me. All those years of believing what does or can make me happy really does not. What does make me happy is to be childlike and joyful. Will others think I am silly, immature, undignified? Probably, but why should I care? 

When I do silly things like play HopScotch, or sing out loud in an elevator, or dance in the grocery store, I feel happy and my spirit gets lifted. I am reminded that it is my responsibility to live a happy, gleeful life and sometimes it's as easy as hopping down the street. Sexy Over Fifty...yep, activating my mojo, yep and it's as easy as being happy as a child on the playground. BTW, do they still have playgrounds?


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