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A dear friend shared this with me...and, I wanted to share with you. Please know that when we talk about being Sexy Over Fifty, more than likely this type of unconditional love is really what we are yearning for from the men we are in relationship with....and them from us.
It was approximately 8.30 a.m. on a busy morning when an elderly gentleman in his eighties arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9.00 a.m.

I took his vital signs and had him take a seat. I knew it would take more than an hour before someone would to able to attend to him. I saw him check his watch anxi...ously for the time and decided to evaluate his wound since I was not busy with another patient.

On examination, the wound was well healed. Hence, I talked to one of the doctors to get the supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

We began to engage in a conversation while I was taking care of his wound. I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment later as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no and said that he needed to go to the nursing home to have breakfast with his wife.

I inquired about her health. He told me that she had been in the nursing home for a while as she was a victim of Alzheimer's disease. I probed further and asked if she would be upset if he was slightly late. He replied that sheImage no longer knew who he was and she had not been able to recognize him since five years ago.
I asked him in surprise, "And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?"
He smiled as he patted my hand and said, "She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is."

I had to hold back my tears as he left.
I had goose bumps on my arm, and I thought, "That is the kind of love I want in my life."

True love is neither physical nor romantic. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be. 

This made me stop...and think...and pray :-)

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Being SEXY OVER 50 Is having young new vibrant energy. I'm the type of person who really enjoys taking on new projects so new challenges and new "young" energy is definitely a part of this personality of mine. Some might think of it as constantly reinventing one's self but for me it's just a way of life.

In this most recent reinvention iteration I have been delving into a past love… Not romantic love but a love that comes from my soul. This love was birthed all the way back in high school when in Art class I started to create my first piece of jewelry. I may have made string or mud rings necklaces earrings etc. when I was a wee one but this was the first time I had actually gotten a piece of Metal and a blowtorch in my hands to create a piece of wearable art. Then i just stopped making anything. Nearly 40 years passed by and the urge to connect with this creative part of my soul began to resurface. So last spring I started driving to Santa Monica to "Precious Metals" a great place to take jewelry making classes. Peter the owner and artist as well as Nancy and the rest of the staff were encouraging and loving my designs. I produced 6 to 8 uniquely different pieces and one day while I was in the elevator a person admired one of my necklaces and I admired an armful of bracelets that he was wearing and we realize we were both kindred spirits and jewelry designers. He asked me to show him the other pieces that I had designed and among them he found one that he thought had great potential.

Necklace-1In the meantime he was constantly constantly constantly encouraging me to draw to let my mind simply wonder to not limit myself as to how a piece of jewelry might be manufactured or even handmade. Instead, he said to just to see these jewelry pieces in my minds eye and draw them. This Free Flow of thought was the beginning of ML Jewelry Design. Soon you will see a new website where  the beginnings of a  diverse and unique line of jewelry is forming. All of this has happened In the last 2 to 3 months and it will be interesting to see how this continues to unfold. 

The main point here is how much better it is to be going through life excited ...feeling new, fresh, full of anticipation, joy, hope and even love of the art and each individual piece. Then I notice how that energy transforms me (and potentially you) into a different more vibrant more attractive more sexy (yes, I know sexier is proper) person.

While gold and diamond jewelry making is the aphrodisiac of choice for me I encourage you to find what motivates you. What excites, what turns you on as a human being because when your light switch is on it's that beam of light that attracts people places and things to you. You could be dating, wanting to date or married for a gazillion years...good energy is good energy!

Write me and tell me what keeps you excited about life...what is your personal "turn on!" We all learn from each other so let this be the venue where you share and help someone else become more vibrant… Who knows who you might inspire to be SEXY OVER 50!

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There I was on a nice leisurely walk through Hancock Park, headset on, working on memorizing a script for a role in a movie and up popped an adorable child's HopScotch. It made me smile and the first time I passed it by...afterall it is a childs' game hopping amongst the little blocks. I went on my way, busy in my head, working on the task, my script. By the third or fourth time I circled that block the HopScotch had gripped my attention. Did I have the guts to be playful? What if someone saw me in the middle of the day acting like a child at play?

Playful = sexy over fifty HopScotch - Version 2What a quandry...jump in and be playful or continue my walk like a grown-up? I looked over my shoulder, up and down the street, and thought what the heck? And, for the next few minutes I gleefully hopped, skipped, jumped with joy. Talk about the ultimate anti-aging work-out!

Did anyone see me? I guess I will never know. But what I do know is that by taking that first hop on the tiny square that was laid out in front of me I was taking a stand...that like Peter Pan, I refuse to grow up and act my age! 

Then I wondered how many times in my life do I stop myself from having fun? How many times am I constrained by some unwritten laws that say an adult does this and not that?

Personally I am ready to burn that book of laws...if only I could find it. But, the truth is the "book" is what is inside me. All those years of believing what does or can make me happy really does not. What does make me happy is to be childlike and joyful. Will others think I am silly, immature, undignified? Probably, but why should I care? 

When I do silly things like play HopScotch, or sing out loud in an elevator, or dance in the grocery store, I feel happy and my spirit gets lifted. I am reminded that it is my responsibility to live a happy, gleeful life and sometimes it's as easy as hopping down the street. Sexy Over Fifty...yep, activating my mojo, yep and it's as easy as being happy as a child on the playground. BTW, do they still have playgrounds?


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At the last minute a friend called, he wanted to go out for a drive...I really wasn't in the mood but I pulled myself together and popped in his car for a leisurely Sunday drive to Palm Springs. I don't know why I didn't want to go except that my day was "planned" with chores and a "must-do" list a mile long that included going for a long walk, re-organizing my closet, giving myself a exciting I mused to myself with a chuckle. 
Sexy Over fifty avoid Isolation

Why did I think I should stay home by myself and be "productive?" I would have missed an opportunity to socialize, get to know someone better, see a beautiful sunset and just blow the stink off me as my dad would say. Just then I got a pop-up from an article that I read recently that said one of the biggest issues with women as they age is ISOLATION. I began to think about the women (friends and clients) I know who repeatedly tell me that they want to be in a relationship yet when I ask them what they did over the past week that was social often there is nothing on their list but an item or two with family members and rarely is there a social event with anyone new, which also new men. So I wondered, "How can we expect to meet new people, especially men when we isolate our lives?"

The other issue with isolation and spending too much time alone is that it's been linked to depression. Research shows even the most shy of us needs to get out and be with others. Sure a good long walk, reading a gripping book or an hour of meditation can lift the spirit. But, the "high" we get from being with friends laughing, having fun, sharing an opinion, even debating an issue leaves us in such a better state of mind that we have to be more attractive and glowing. 

So I spent some time thinking about the energy you have when you meet someone you find attractive and even have an exciting date...and I determined, that energy, that alive, fun, sexy energy is not found watching the television by yourself. Promise to self...put down the remote and get out there!

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Sexy Over 50 fifty rejoice in your naked bodyFrom my perspective, being Sexy Over 50 means loving your body naked AND clothed. In the past when I would think about getting naked there was a piece of me that felt anything but Sexy...I think it was the remnant of the morality messages my mother AND society fed me and which I believed. But, today it is a joy to love my body and to feel comfortable walking around naked.

I do wonder when the shift occurred from feeling shy and even ashamed to comfortable and proud. There was one particular moment in a yoga class I was taking in Steamboat Springs, Colorado...there I was in an inverted "A" grabbing my ankles, my head between my legs looking at the other bodies in the class. Instead of judging or comparing my parts my thoughts went something like this...Oh, there's one with long legs and small boobs, and that one has wide hips and chubby legs and oh that one has a skinny waist with massive bottom...AND they are all beautiful. Every one of those bodies, with every variation on the human body theme...they were all magnificent, living, breathing...gorgeous! That was I believe the moment when I started loving my body...because if they all were beautiful I guess I was too.

What comes up for me these days is my attitude about "Who the heck is Hollywood (and other forms of mdeia) to tell US what's attractive? And, why do we (women) buy into their "scoreboard" so if we don't measure up to their measurements we aren't happy with our bodies and somehow feel less than? This is one of the first issues we need to come to grips with before we start dating. It is Step One in feeling Sexy Over 50.

Loving your body is a process and I ask clients to begin the "self-love-fest" one part at a time. One client, Sandy chose her hands as her first part and gave herself a manicure and moisturized her hands every day lovingly. Seeing her hands as miracle apendiges that help her express her feelings, pick up utensils, open doors, shake hands, hold hands...caress a face, pet a dog...Sandy began to see her hands as miracles. When Sandy started to see her hands in a whole different way she fell in love with them. And, then I challenged Sandy to focus on another miracle part, and another and another...

Take the challenge too; beginning with step one...building to love all your parts it's a powerful path toward loving your body and feeling Sexy Over Fifty and beyond...naked or clothed!

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